vietgirl26 said: Ok I'm curious as to the basis of why girls go to that "bad boy" even after being treated horribly and ugly. Why can't they just leave what's hurting them?
That’s a great question, because the answer seems so obvious. Just leave! Right? Unfortunately, it’s not that simple. There are many reasons why people stay in abusive relationships. They often stay due to their hope that things will change; that the abuse will go away. They also tend to cling to the positive traits in their partner, citing these traits as evidence for love. Fear is another reason people stay in abusive relationships. Many times people feel safer if they stay and feel as though they cannot escape a dangerous situation. Also, feelings of guilt and shame can be driving forces in one’s decision to stay with an abusive partner. While it is a complicated situation there are ways out. Seeking out support from friends, family, and/or a therapist as well as becoming self-empowered are some of the first steps to getting out of an abusive relationship.